Beth Smits ⋅ Washington, DC Johns Hopkins School of Advanced International Studies ⋅ 24 years experience

Here's the advice I would give: If we are talking about networking 'cold, for example at an event, rather than through a requested meeting, I believe that it's best not to come first with saying that you're looking for a job. Rather, begin the conversation by trying to find mutual points of interest. Definitely let it be known that you're looking -- there's absolutely nothing wrong with that -- but wait until you understand where you and the other person overlap. Perhaps indeed you might have a contact or knowledge that would help that person. In any case, people tend to be willing to help, and if you have established a rapport, then you are doing excellent networking. And don't forget to get a business card and then follow up with an email and/or LinkedIn connection (where you don't just ask to connect, you send a personalized message). You don't always see immediate benefits to networking in this way, but you do see benefits!

Denise Caruzzi ⋅ Boise, ID Cisco ⋅ 30 years experience

Good luck on your search and kudos for doing deliberate and conscious networking.

I will add my agreement with Eric's full transparency....but would shift your words slightly. The net benefit has yet to be determined, but i would definitely mention your mutual INTERESTS (like the industry, professional field, friends in another group, or anyone who suggested you speak). Rather than simply saying you are seeking a job (which is sometimes too much responsibility for others), you can mention that you are leaving the military, your expertise in xxx, and that you are exploring opportunities in the private sector. (Expand the kind of help they might give, why you would appreciate their input, and as much as possible, remove barriers to having a short conversation--as you would with an informational interview.) Before you end the conversation, always ask for others who might have more information in your particular interests. THEN....find reasons to continue the conversation....record and followup with information they found interesting (anything from snow reports to leadership articles)....and ALWAYS a note of thanks with specific words of what was useful to you...and/or what you have done with it.

Wishing you the best of luck with your transition!!

Georgia L Mitchell ⋅ Lake Mary, FL Blue Buffalo ⋅ 20 years experience

While it's hard to know for sure without seeing the full conversation, most people are looking for the next opportunity. So, you're probably fine. Better to state what you want upfront than waste your time or the other person's time.

Having said that, there are subtle ways to ask about openings -- and subtly can be a valued asset in some fields. What type of position interests you?

Eric Knode ⋅ Minneapolis, MN Owner BPM Consulting LLC ⋅ 10 years experience

Good question and I would expect some very subjective answers.

I generally stick to the practice of full disclosure in all things. Not to suggest I am crass or pushy, actually, I find myself appreciating civility more and more. I just prefer people who are upfront with their motives as I will do the same. If you are connecting for a job, make it clear. No, I do not expect someone to offer a specific return on the investment of time, resources etc.

Networking is building relationships. If you invest time into these, the mutual benefits will be common knowledge.

All the best.
Eric