I find it difficult to manage both careers successfully; wither one sector gets placed on the back-end while I work on the other sector.
Very interesting question...because most of the questions/answers here at ACP involve the great cultural distances between the Military and Civilian sectors. We are usually talking about how what works in the Military doesn't work with civilians (who, for instance, don't follow orders) and how "transitioning" strategically requires relearning the "how" of many skills.
And, wow, you want to be successful simultaneously in both environments! I am not at all surprised that you work in one while keeping the other "on the back burner".
Rather than "answer" more, I'd like to ask you 1) how you see the differences between the two sectors, and 2) how would you describe the tactical transition you go through when you turn from one to the other?
(I work in both the for-profit business development AND the not-for-profit worlds and, now that you mention it, I have a similar experience. I tend to try to infuse for-profit with meaning and not-for-profit with better management...and, maybe, that's asking too much of each sector.)
I will check back to see if you answer.
My thought is that you need to accept that you are NOT the same as other single professional career individuals. There are sacrifices - and I found that it was "Time Off" and "Personal Time" that suffered - but that additional effort/time was worth it.
When retirement comes you will see that the benefits are obvious. In addition to Social Security you will have your civilian career retirement income. But the magnifier of your total retirement income will be the income from your military career.
With that retirement income/benefits magnifier you not only have the monthly check that may be adjusted upward every year - you will also have all of your and your spouses medicine and much of your and your spouses healthcare provided. In addition to TriCare For Life, you will also have benefits thru the nearest Military Medical Treatment Facility. All of my wife's and my maintenance medications are provided at no cost but we also have access to eye exams/prescriptions, hearing, immunizations and other screening. The Exchange and Commissary is also a multiplier.
Another benefit is the networking - you will constantly be gathering networking opportunities that will also magnify your career growth.
I hope you find this helpful - I lived and thrived thru 26 years as a Navy Reserve Officer (ended as a 06) and in my civilian career I finished 38 years as a Hospital President/CEO.
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