I find it difficult to manage both careers successfully; wither one sector gets placed on the back-end while I work on the other sector.
My thought is that you need to accept that you are NOT the same as other single professional career individuals. There are sacrifices - and I found that it was "Time Off" and "Personal Time" that suffered - but that additional effort/time was worth it.
When retirement comes you will see that the benefits are obvious. In addition to Social Security you will have your civilian career retirement income. But the magnifier of your total retirement income will be the income from your military career.
With that retirement income/benefits magnifier you not only have the monthly check that may be adjusted upward every year - you will also have all of your and your spouses medicine and much of your and your spouses healthcare provided. In addition to TriCare For Life, you will also have benefits thru the nearest Military Medical Treatment Facility. All of my wife's and my maintenance medications are provided at no cost but we also have access to eye exams/prescriptions, hearing, immunizations and other screening. The Exchange and Commissary is also a multiplier.
Another benefit is the networking - you will constantly be gathering networking opportunities that will also magnify your career growth.
I hope you find this helpful - I lived and thrived thru 26 years as a Navy Reserve Officer (ended as a 06) and in my civilian career I finished 38 years as a Hospital President/CEO.
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